I and my girlfriend have been followers of your blog for a few months. We've always enjoyed your posts and miss checking in on this corner of cyberspace. I hope everything goes well for you in the air force.
Thank you, I hope everything goes well for you and your lady friend :)
Hai Guise
So…my parents owe me $1,700 bucks, my student loans are coming due, I’m packing to head up to San Francisco tonight, and I should be freaking out about life in general but SAL GOODMAN! I feel really good right now. Not sure why but who cares? I’m joining the air force. I’ve decided that now is the perfect time in my life - I’m not involved with anyone permanent, I have no rent, no major obligations, no steady job that I’d be really bummed if I had to quit, already got a Bachelor’s degree under my belt, and have no mini me’s running around. I have always wanted to be a pilot and I’m going to pursue that. So fuck yeah.
For Anon looking to dominate her boyfriend. I really recommend CFNM as a great way to start. Nothing makes a person feel more vulnerable and submissive to another person as standing there nude in front of them while they remain clothed and therefore in authority. When he gets hard standing there like that it provides endless opportunities to tease him about being excited or take the scene anywhere you like, from foot worship to kneeling, spanking, etc. Glad you are back!
THIS! Anon if you're still reading back here, do this. It's a brilliant idea and if you feel so inclined check out the blog it's attached to, She's wonderful as well and comes with my personal high recommendation :)
Are you going to share some of your experiences with the other couple? I have been following you for a long, long time and know that you have wanted to be with a woman but never had the opportunity. I would love to hear how you felt and thought the first time another woman went down on you and the same if you went down on her. You have always been so candid I'm really hoping you will share your insight on the experience with us. Thank you.
The other couple just a few days ago texted me to inform me that they had broken up. Which came totally out of the blue and which they assured me had nothing to do with me. So the search continues, I'm in no big rush though. I'm super picky…as you can all imagine lol. I will almost certainly feel inclined to share once this experience happens though, rest assured :)
Hello! I think your blog if absolutly amazing! You probably get questions like this a lot but if you could help me I would be so grateful. My boyfriend recently asked me to dominate him and I am super excited. Here is my dilemma, I don't really know what to do or where to start, really. We have done bits here and there. I've sat on his face, talked dirty, and spanked him a little bit. I guess what I am asking for is some sort of direction. I really want to look like a sexy goddess to him. Help?
I need to get a FAQ's link up haha. But never fear, this is exactly why I have this blog kiddos! Questions are a good thing.
First - excitement is a good thing! That's what I like to hear!
Second - it's okay if you don't know everything yet. Did you know how to swim the first time you touched water? No. But you got in there and waddled around and eventually you got the hang of it, right? This is no different.
Third - if he's asked you for this, you already look like a sexy goddess to him. I PROMISE you. So you have that going for you, use it to your advantage. Here is a man who is eager to do what you want, and who values you and already sees you as this wonderful creature. Use it woman!
Okay, so the practical advice I can give is this. Pick a scene. There are different kinds of domination, so choose the kind you want. You could be the harsh Mistress, the Disciplinarienne, the strong Amazon, etc. It seems like you (and he) are gravitating to the Goddess type of domination, which is fantastic and a really gentle way to begin Femdom.
With all these different types of domination come different expectations and different 'ground rules' you might call them. You wouldn't expect the same thing of a naughty school boy as you would of a humble worshiper, and you wouldn't say the same things either. So be mindful of what sorts of things you are going to say and do to him. The Goddess type of domination isn't huge on physical pain or punishment, but you can and should use your pussy - or whatever part of you is most erogenous - as a reward. He should have to earn it, not just be given it.
Go into it with a mindset that you are in control and his sole purpose for this evening or this week or this whatever-period-of-time-you-want is to please you. That's part 1. Part 2 is to have him complete tasks for you, simple things like chores or what have you, or you can make them more complicated and more sexualized like arranging a sexy outfit for his Goddess to wear. If he's completed the tasks satisfactorily, give him a reward. If not, then an appropriate punishment (appropriate for the scene you're in). YOU decide if he's completed his duties to your liking, and you decide the rewards and punishments. He should get you off as many times as you please. Don't be afraid to use orgasm as a reward for him. He should be motivated to please you.
This scene can be as long or as short as you want it to be, as humiliating or as teasing as you're comfortable with, and you can really tailor it to your desires as a couple. It's mild as far as the extra super duper kinky stuff goes, but that makes it an awesome jumping off point for other kinky adventures.
I hope this helps you out anon, sorry I took so long!
What's the hardest you've been chastised?
I've been chastised? I don't think you understand the point of this blog very well, dear anon…I don't receive chastisement, I dish it out.
Which would you choose for a session, if given the opportunity- 1. have a woman sub, or 2. have two guys and why would you choose that one?
Damn…that's hard. Woman sub. Because while I'd love to have two adorable male pets doing my bidding, women are just so much sexier on their knees. Personal preference ;)
Hey guys. I have lots of questions in my inbox. I’m sorry for not answering them, I truly am....
Hey guys. I have lots of questions in my inbox. I’m sorry for not answering them, I truly am. I’ve been a shitty blog owner as of late.
I’m thinking about posting one - possibly two depending on reception - (sort of…for privacy reasons I guess) face shots. What y’all think?
And on a Non Rant Filled Note..
But since I posted a rant-and-rage filled rant…with rage filling…I’ll post some of my sex life that shockingly hasn’t completely died off from neglect.
Since I broke up with the ex I’ve hooked up with 3 guys. One of them is very likely a gay man who hasn’t come out to himself yet. I do wish him the best of luck because he’s a sweetheart but it’s a DAMN CRYING SHAME because he was gorgeous and had the most fantastic ass and cock I’ve ever seen in my life. Sigh. Well.
I’ve not had any kinky fun although lordy knows I’ve gotten offered. Another sigh…but on the upside apparently drop dead gorgeous women enjoy hitting on and flirting with me. Like…11/10’s. Which has stunned me to silence. And which brings about the point of “oh yeah, I’m totally dating girls now” which then leads to “oh yeah, I totally get why guys bitch about girls now.” I don’t think I’ve ever appreciated guys more. Goodness gracious how do y’all do it? Fear of rejection is a bitch and it takes some serious nerve to ask a lady out.
Anywho that leads me to this: I’m in the process of arranging a threesome, wherein the other two are a couple interested in a girl to spice things up. The girl (from what I can pick up on) has quite the submissive streak. Which is HOT. She just doesn’t know she has it haha. What I like about them is they are both comfortable with sleeping with me one on one as well as in a group, don’t see it as a threat to their relationship etc etc and so basically I get two fuck buddies - one male one female, just like I wanted - for the price of one, so to speak. Pretty cool and I’m nervous as fuck but fairly excited too.
So yeah, there’s that :)
Rant rant rantety rant RAGE rant :/
To everyone freaking out or worried I’m dead in a ditch somewhere, I am not! And I am sorry I keep disappearing. To fill you all in: I basically now have 3 jobs, all of which are stressing me the fuck out, plus school to finish.
I have one boss, let’s call him Captain Douchebag (why? Because I’m not one for subtlety. For clarification see title above) who has this fun habit of calling me up the MORNING BEFORE he wants me to work. Gives me 13 or 14 hour shifts over the course of one day. Total of 24-26 hours of work during a given weekend. So here I am I’ve made weekend plans, thinking to myself “oh this weekend will be my lazy one! joy.” annnnnnnd it’s gone.
I have to go to San Diego this weekend because my coworker got a DUI. Since it’s a massive waste of gas and time to go there Saturday morning, drive back Saturday night, drive in Sunday morning and drive back Sunday night, guess who gets to spend her whole weekend with Captain Douchebag? This girl. All my meals. All my free time. And in case anyone’s wondering, no I won’t get to enjoy the city. I’ll be working all weekend, and when I’m not working I’ll be with C. D. which is as far from enjoyment as I can get.
In addition to this, my more steady non-weekend-only job has me just about pulling my hair out with all the extra responsibility put on me that isn’t in my job description and I’m not getting paid for. I’m basically doing the work of someone directly superior to myself. But I’m me. Not that person. I have all the responsibility, all of the expectations, and zero of the benefits. And by the way this all happened within my first week of working at this new job I’d literally NEVER been in before. In the interest of fairness, all my coworkers have been under the same amount of stress and for the same reasons as well. They’ve just been there longer is all.
So now I have C. D. to worry about, my steady job to worry about, and trying to find time for school and potentially picking up some more work on the side (but that’s from C. D. of all the freaking people in the world…which reminds me I have three months to learn website design and build a website for him from scratch. If anyone has any good suggestions for how the hell one goes about doing this, I’m all ears).
I know this is about as far from sexy as I can get, but I’ve had literally no sex drive the last month. I’ve been stressed, haven’t exercised in a month (GROSS…good mother of all that is holy I feel horrible about that) and I’m basically subsisting off of coffee right now….like that my complete consumption of anything edible was two cups of starbucks today. Maybe that’s why I’ve been so antsy and angry all day.
TL;DR life, me no gusta right now.
I'm in a bondage mood. Who wants to be tied up?
I'm in a bondage mood. Who wants to be tied up?
ah belts…I have such a thing for belts
ah belts…I have such a thing for belts
I love the incorporation of the bedframe into the rope bondage,...
I love the incorporation of the bedframe into the rope bondage, and especially his attention to how he tied the sub's legs and linked her arms. she really cannot move here and is at his mercy, as she should be
Namaste
I just did something I needed to do. I feel peaceful now.
I also got the job I desperately needed to get.
To say I have a lot going on in my love life right now is underselling it.
But to say I am not excited about it is a bold-faced lie.
I will post about the latter statement soon.
cheers :)
Cheese and crackers that's a lot of cum :D
Cheese and crackers that's a lot of cum :D:Submission (I think?) from my IRL friend this guy
You are right! GASP!Will you ever tell us about a time that you submitted? OMG, that does surprise me and it is interesting to think of you having done that- not so much sexually interesting but rather that you explored it and it presents a different side to you that I had never thought of... BTW, have to stay Anon, but I am a 58 year old male that religiously checks your blog. I find it incredibly interesting and I'm guessing I'm your oldest fan and only wish you would dominate me just once
Haha you gotta practice what you preach :) I've always held the belief that every Dominant person is only Dominant because of a submissive side, and every sub only submissive because of a Dominant side and I encourage everyone to explore both sides of themselves. So yes, I don't talk about it a lot but I have done it with a couple of partners. I suppose I *could* share a story or two of when I've submitted, but honestly the only reason I haven't is because I feel like it would shock a lot of my followers who are used to seeing me only one way.
You know what, you may or may not be my oldest fan but you bring up an interesting point and now I'm curious to find out. I wonder what the age ranges are of my fan base. Maybe I'll make a post out of that. Anywho, thanks for the interest in my humble little blog :3
With past boyfriends or partners- how have you brought up the subject that a. you own a strap on, and b. you would like him to let you use it on him? This has been a long time fantasy of mine and I actually ordered one through the mail. Now that I have it I'm afraid to mention it.... HELP, I really want to try it!
How I bring up anything of course: just say it. I tend to be an open book and very honest and that kind of shocks some of my partners (past and current). But I understand this approach doesn't suit everyone's personality. So try opening the conversation with something relevant, or just something sexual, to make it clear that's what you're in the mood to discuss that day. And then start asking about whether s/he has used any toys in the past, whether they would be interested in toys, if they respond in the affirmative then this is your perfect opportunity to bring up some of your toys. If you're not blunt like I tend to be then hint at it. Say you have some basic vibrators and dildos laying around (come on who doesn't) but you've also got some raunchier stuff you'd be down to share with a partner. If this seems to pique their curiosity then my good person you have a winner! Explore that conversation with them. This is the easiest way I can think of to lead a conversation to that point.
Hope this helped, I also just answered another question similar to this (dunno if from you or another anon) you could check that out as well :] keep us updated!
I read your note about how you have submitted but it was to a man. I also have read that you have fantasized about topping a woman but have yet to have had the opportunity to even have sex with another woman. My question is whether you would ever be submissive to another woman? If not, why with a guy but not a woman? Thanks.
Hahaha. This question. A lot of my friends whom I'm open with about my activities and preferences have recently brought this up and I've wondered it myself quite a bit.
My answer is no, I'm not interested in submitting to another woman. The closest reason I can flesh out is because women are far more cruel than men. Perhaps it's cheating, but when I'm submissive to a man (the select few times I have been) I know I can appeal to their urge to protect. I pick the kinds of men who want to, and who subsequently control themselves while Topping me for fear of causing actual harm. Which is sweet, in a way. But a woman would push me the way a man never has, and to some extent I fear that. Women understand women a lot better than men do I think.
Hi Michelle, I hope you're just too busy having all sorts of kinky and non-kinky fun. Keep in mind, though, that every day you're not giving our your wise and fun answers and advice is another day that "50 Shades of Grey" runs rampant as an unanswered view of how people should do BDSM and kink. No pressure, of course, just sayin' ; ). Take care!
AH! That made me shudder. What a dark and horrid world that would be.
When are we going to hear from you again? Share something sexy with us :), or share with me how to get my boyfriend to let me take him with the strapon I bought. He enjoys me playing with his ass but says a strapon is gay. I say it isn't gay if a girl is wearing it and doing the fucking. I would also love to hear a story about a first time you used it on one of your partners- what was it like for you and his reaction. Thanks and please come back!!!!!!
Lol hi there. I noticed some anonymous person (perhaps you perhaps someone else) asked this question several weeks ago. I've been sick and incredibly busy with my own love life, which I'll be making a post about soon enough. In any event, whether you are the same person or a different one who asked about introducing the bf to the joys of strap on lovin', I'll help you out as best I can and I am ever so sorry for the delayed response!
First of all, this term "it's gay" is stupid and outdated for a whole slew of reasons I won't even begin to get into. He is sexually attracted to you, a presumable female, yes? Then HE'S NOT GAY. Simple as that. Exploring your body with a partner is not necessarily an indicator of sexual orientation. Which makes me wonder why he is so insecure with his manhood all of a sudden? If he enjoys his ass being played with then by his own logic he's already gay, since that's a behavior typically associated with gay men right? There are many flaws with his logic but that's neither here nor there. Point is lots of hetero couples have anal and enjoy it and they shockingly manage to remain hetero. Male sexuality tends to be more rigid. If he likes pussy, he's gonna keep on liking it.
ANYWHO. Ranting aside. Reassure him activities in themselves are not inherently gay. Because well they aren't. I find that with guys like those, they just need the reassurance and most of the time they're afraid of what their male friends would think if they found out. So reassure him it stays just between the two of you too. Then let him know that if he likes his ass played with, this will feel amazing. Focus more on the sensation than the activity. Strap on play does stimulate a lot of nerves around the ass which many straight men will likely, pitifully, never experience. Also if he's a pleaser appeal to that side of him. Let him know how happy or excited or aroused it would make you to be able to do that with him (don't say TO him, say WITH him. He may not like the idea of being the fuckee instead of the fucker, and this may be feeding into his insecurities about his manhood. Do not feed those beasts) Other than that, it is his choice. You can't force it on him. Give him some time to think about it, tell him it would make you really happy to be able to do it WITH him, and with any luck he'll be at least willing to try :]
Hope this helped, and for you other person (or possibly the same person) who asked about introducing strap on to the bf this goes for you as well
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